Welcome back to the Nic at Nite blog! Its been about two years since I last posted, I have to make a blog post for my class, I just had a birthday, and to round it all out, it's St. Patrick's Day today so what more occasions do I need to update this page?
To anyone that's new,
Hi there! I'm Nic! Nice to meet you!
I'm a college junior who is way too ready to graduate already and excited for the rest of my life to start. Unlike the confused relationship chaos that was my last blog post, I am happy to finally announce that we are more than a year and a half deep into an amazing relationship with the sweetest nerdiest gremlin on the planet and we know the WHOLE. EXTENDED. FAMILY.
So, yeah...
I'd say it's pretty serious :)
The last time I posted I was going through some pretty big life changes and two years later I'm still going through changes. I'm starting to think that maybe part of life and growth is just constantly changing. So, in honor of these growths/changes, and in honor of my recent birthday, here are some lessons and mantras I have learned on my life journey so far that have gotten me to where I am.
1. Find a way or make one
This one is actually the slogan of my rival high school that my mother will never forgive me for not going to. The school wasn't for me, but when I heard this slogan it so deeply spoke to me because aren't those, quite simply, the only way to make your own happiness and satisfaction in life? Either someone has done it before and you can learn from them, or you've got to figure it out for yourself. It is so simple it is a brilliant sentiment. I live by it whenever I can, and it has truly made me an unstoppable force when I want to be.
And on that note:
2. I am responsible for my life
If no one has told you yet, let me let you in on a little secret of life that will set you free:
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE AND OUTLOOK
I actually learned this lesson in 9th grade from a teacher I to this date despise with all of my heart so you know its gotta be good advice if I am still willing to credit him. He was my advisor and during our weekly advisory period he challenged me and our whole homeroom to not use the word "but" or any of its synonyms for a full week. Weird right? and he didn't elaborate either. But I am always down for a challenge and proving him wrong so I did it.
I swear to god I don't think I made it to the end of that class period.
Why was it so hard? Because "but" is a word that is almost always followed by an excuse. Very rarely does anything that follows a "but" actually stop you from doing whatever came before it. It is a choice to let it stop you. "I should have gone for a jog today, but it was raining so I watched Netflix instead." Was it raining so hard you couldn't go out or did you not want to get wet? Is there a gym available to go to nearby? can you jog around your house or apartment or try an alternate workout that works similar muscles. The world around you and situations can limit you sometimes, but at the end of the day, you are responsible for your choices and what you do in those situations. You may not be at fault, but you are responsible for your life. So do something with it that makes life worth living.
3. Own your shit
This one might be more "me" specific, but I think if more people lived by this one the world would be a more livable place. Own your shit. This ties into the accountability of number two, but you will cause a lot fewer problems in your life if you are unapologetic in what you do, and take responsibility for your actions. If you promise yourself to own your shit you will find yourself experiencing a lot of personal pride for things you succeed at, and likely doing less of things that are less savory or shady.
My last one for today is,
4. People are in your life for a season and a reason
My mom taught me this one on the last day of third grade when my best friend told me he was moving. He was kinda the love of my life and eight-year-old me was taking it very hard and this advice was not making me feel better (Thanks mom), but the truth of it hit me sometime in high school when I realized my best friend all through middle school and I were growing apart. It was so bizarre to me because we had gone through so much, learned so much together, and the distance between us seemed to appear out of the blue -- but so did my mom's old adage.
Not everyone you meet is meant to be in your life forever, even if it feels like it at the moment. What is important is that you appreciate what you did get out of those relationships. Whether that just be memories, learning how to get out of an extremely niche situation, or what you do want or don't want in a future relationship, you are built out of all of the people you have ever known. Of course, there are plenty of parts of our identity that we cultivate on our own, but sometimes it's good to appreciate how those around you have influenced you. Even if their season is up
I know the basics of makeup because of one friend I had in high school that I cannot stand now. Still, every time I go to Ulta or Sephora, I buy the brands she taught me with. One time, my middle school best friend that moved across the country and I went to this ramen restaurant near her house. We never went back there again because she was vegan and they did not have a lot of options for her but it was such a fun adventure the night we first went there. To this day, I still go there all of the time and it is one of my and my boyfriend's favorite places to go.
Whether the season ended naturally (moves, growing apart, etc.), or intentionally (as it sometimes necessary to preserve personal well-being) being able to appreciate all of the people that have functioned as your building blocks helps you be more appreciative and harbor less animosity, guilt, or feeling of loss, because they are a part of you, and we love ourselves on this blog!
That is all I have for this blog post, but if you like these life lessons and want me to post some more, let me know! My mom is an extremely wise woman who has given me so many nuggets of knowledge, and I have lived quite a bit of life in my 22 years of life.
UNTIL NEXT TIME
Sincerely
Nic @ Nite
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